What are the warning signs we should look for in the e-mails we receive from women in russia. i know if they ask for $$ to cut and run, but there must be other “tricks” they use. is there a list available for us to read. thanks for all your help and the info. that you give all of us.
Dave
Hello Mr. David,
One obvious way of checking is to see if you get a message back that feels like it could easily fit with any other number of guys.. i.e. a form letter.
If you are going to write letters to a girl don’t make them too long but try to put some details of your life into them. If you get a reply that has just a passing or zero reference to your life then I’d say there’s a good chance that you are dealing with a fake.
Another thing to evaluate is to see if the letter looks like it could have been written by a narcissist. If the message is only about her and seems self-absorbed then it’s either a fake or you are writing to someone with a character that you don’t want to be dealing with. The more girls you write to the more you will get a feel for what’s going on. Keep the tone respectful and avoid sarcasm, sexual comments or jokes that only you and your buddies would understand.
Do not make any promises and just keep the tone of the letter anchored on the type of life you want to build and the type of girl you want to build it with. Guys whatever you do for God’s Sake DON’T fall in love with a girl you are ONLY writing to!! Dumb Dumb and Dumber.. This happens more often then you would think and you are just setting youself up for a very big disappointment.
Good Luck!
GL
P.S. Don’t forget the 80/20 rule. Writing emails is all fine and good but it’s only 20% of the deal as compared to meeting and having quality time with them which is the other 80%.
Hey There,
Just wanted to say that I read your blog today and it was quite refreshing to get a good point of view on the subject of russian women.
Do you have any information pertaining specifically to what to look for in a genuine russian women. Also are there any agencies that you recommend or do you recommend just taking some vacation time in one of the cities and meeting a girl that way.
Thanks,
Regards,
Kris J
Hello Mr. Kris,
Thank you for the compliment! I’ve known for a while that this blog is badly needed wisdom for a large number of men so it’s been a real pleasure to chalk up a few points on the Karma scoreboard.
Well.. you picked a lite subject today didn’t you! ; ) The issue of “Genuine Russian Women” is a subject that I’m going to get more deeply into on another post. But for now the most important thing you should concentrate on is what you want in your life. Many things are possible out here in terms of traditional feminine qualities that just simply seem to be non-existent in the US. I’m a firm believer in the hidden powers of the mind in that the more you are able to visualize something the more tools the universe gives you to make it happen.
One bit of wisdom I’ll give you straight away is to try to avoid the girls within the 18 to 22 range.. I know I know it’s hard to do and I’ve broken this rule plenty of times myself.. BUT if you don’t have a high tolerance for games then this is the range that you should avoid in general.. Yes there are always exceptions but the odds are against that. This rule is especially true if you are looking for a real wife and not a plaything.
As far as strategies for coming here read my previous post about meeting and making new friends on the Internet. I would use that as a foundation to start with and then explore other agencies if you wish “in addition” to that.
Keep reading and keep posting!
GL
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July 27, 2006 at 1:22 pm
OK here’s a couple for you. what is better, to marry over there or bring her to the U.S.-? and in both cases, what types of red tape are involved with the INS-?
July 27, 2006 at 3:38 pm
Dave this is still a big unknown to many people who are even experts because it seems that their is a degree of uncertainty that the US Immigration people like to keep active that allows them the leeway to reject and accept people at will. Although there is much paperwork on both methods there is still the subjective aspect here on the interviewers parts. Some of my friends swear by one way and some swear by the other. In the meantime check out these links.
http://fjimmigrationattorney.info/gary-bala-immigration-attorney.html
http://usaimmigrationattorney.com/
November 18, 2006 at 6:17 pm
How do you know if a woman likes you for who you are on the website and not for something else? I was on a Russian dating website found some Russian women who would send me e-mails to my yahoo acount. However, I don’t know if they are for real or not.
November 19, 2006 at 6:14 pm
Hi Edward,
It’s impossible for a woman to like you for who you are if they’ve never met you and are only getting an initial introduction through
emails. Your correspondence with them is only 20% of the deal or less..
The remaining 80% depends on your first meeting with them.. If you’d like to find out more go to the search box and type in “20″ or “80″ and you should find an extensive write up I did on this subject..
Thanks for joining us and good luck..
GL
April 15, 2008 at 12:44 pm
I am writing a wonderful woman in Nikoleav. She is very up set about a public hug. She said it could be a big, problem. She is the sweetest thing! So tell me, please, about public affection in the Ukraine.
April 15, 2008 at 10:27 pm
There’s indeed big difference. Depends on habits, environments, personal limits and tempo of familiarizing. But Slavs are generally more reticent than Americans. You should love Allan Pease’s “Body Language”.
You can see adolescent couples kissing their heads away here and there, or startle somebody knee-dancing in a dark night park, but the basic norm of decency in public is walking a woman on the arm.
That is, if she feels like. It’s quite impersonal, yet it’s the start of the many steps to shorten the distance from two acquaintances to a Couple.
0. You lift your curled elbow slightly, as if instinctively. She can pretend she didn’t notice if her personal sense of distance prevents, or take it up so as not to offend you and then feel a bit tense at least initially, or hold to it carefree, or cling to you softly feeling romantic.
When you can call her your girlfriend, there are a few more universally acceptable degrees of physical connection in public.
1. Walking arms across backs, with hands on each other’s belt area. Embracing her across the upper back when you meet.
2. Encircling her with your arm, your hand curled around her upper arm or shoulder. It feels appropriating and protective. Don’t take bad examples, though. They used to drive my late Grandmother mad, and I too find it vulgar and disconsiderate to rest your arm / hand upon the woman’s shoulder even if you’re no tired bodybuilder and she’s no fragile.
3. It’s very touching to see couples in the subway, woman wrapped in her man’s embrace over her arms, her hands around his waist or on his chest.
4. Carrying one’s hand in the other’s jeans pocket in “1″ is naughty but funny if noticeable at all.
WARNING: Even if you’ve had sex in all possible positions, it’s respectful not to touch her front, face, and subwaist area in public. Hot dances may give allowances. )
Sure everyone can meet or grow a +8 (infinity) uninhibited person.
Sincerely,
Crabbed Aunt Natalia
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April 16, 2008 at 12:16 pm
Thanks! I should have asked earlier as the relationship with the woman in Nikoleav has cooled. Well on to St. Petersburg I go. The eastern woman is maybe the most desirable in the world but she is a woman and oops I made a big mistake.
I just wanted to hug her all the time. Is that to much to ask?
I am following the trail of Peter the Great. First Voronech, then Nikoleav and now St. Petersburg. I know he imported 3 beautiful women for each one of his ship builders in Voronech and I wonder if some his ship builders followed him?
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