Well the Pleasant Part of Spring has finally begun.
The part where there is no more mud or sludge on the ground to worry about.
This is one of those few times in the year where the weather is just right.. not to many mosquitoes or flies swirling around and only the occasional dust cloud that blows into you with the wind.
But in general conditions are good enough for you to walk around with any short sleeve shirt and a light jacket.
And it is because of this that I would officially call this the start of..
The Walking Season..
There’s a real collective instinct to this especially when you live in Siberia.
The countless Women who have undoubtedly been couped up in their homes, schools and offices for the last 6 months have a real emotional connection to the Spring and the easiest way for them to express and celebrate this is just to simply go walking..
And I’m not talking about little itty-bitty strolls here either..
I’m talking about frequent and seriously long walks all over the place.
And in tight skirts and high heels too..
You see when I first visited Russia 4 years ago I was invited to go for a walk with our lovely Inessa who you see above in the banner.
Since it was in September and the weather was starting to get a little chilly a black overcoat and a pair of sexy high heel boots was her chosen wardrobe for that day.
So on the very first morning of my arrival she decides to give me a “little” tour of her town.
Well this “little tour” ended up being a 5 hour walk through all sorts of broken and craggy city terrain.
Being the car driving urbanite that I was at the time I was simply exhausted but did my best to keep the stiff upper lip and not break too much of a sweat.
I certainly felt like a Stranger in a Strange Land awkwardly walking around with my camera in hand and with my head constantly twisting from side to side trying to take in all the sights as if I were Grandpa Jones visiting Honolulu for the very first time.
Inessa on the other hand was just this gorgeous and non-stop Energizer Playboy Bunny walking machine.
She reminded me of an urban ice skater..
Just elegant beyond belief as she smiled and glided along the street regardless of the pot holes and concrete depressions before us.
Now aside from me laughing at myself and realizing just how much of a visual mismatch we were at the time.
This was also the first moment when I realized..
“Jeezzuz these Russian Women are in SHAPE..”
- End Flashback -
S0 yesterday as I was going for a stroll down the river bank.. it seemed as if I was just part of an endless flow of young people who were also cruising to soak up the sun and the refreshing breeze.
All of them seemed to be exuding that classic enthusiasm for Mother Nature as she encourages the creation of New Life.
It’s as if the carnival had finally come to town when you were a kid but in this case there was no carnival in sight because frankly there didn’t need to be…
The heavily anticipated onset of this season was reason enough.
The Incredible Spring fashions that I was seeing on these Ladies was certainly a BIG PART of this “Energy”.
Kind of like flowers blossoming in all of their colorful glory waiting for just the right chance to attract a passing honey bee…
Now as I was contemplating all of this a little irony crept up in my thoughts as I remembered living in the US and being absolutely inundated with television, radio and print ads from JC-Penny’s or Macy’s that always began with the line..
“Spring is here! Come see our incredible lineup of colorful and sexy fashions at our Welcome to Spring Sale!!”
But back then for some reason I never really noticed those “New Spring Fashions” with the Women that surrounded me in the US.
It simply seemed just like the same old stuff to me.
Meanwhile back on this side of the world..
There is comparatively a minuscule amount of advertising for clothes but you can certainly SEE the difference in fashions BIG TIME.
I guess the easiest way for me to illustrate this would be for you to take all of the Victoria Secret catalogs you’ve ever gazed at..
Get past the lingerie and into the regular fashions section..
Then create a walking parade of these images in your mind.
Maybe only then will you come close to visualizing what can be seen here during this time of year.
In any-case Gentlemen..
In Russia we are dealing with the onset of nothing short of a full scale Mini-Skirt Invasion..
White Flags anyone?
April 24, 2007 at 8:28 am
Hey man, I’ve got some bad news.
My childhood best friend just pulled the same stunt on me that your childhood best friend pulled on you.
You know, with the “never speaking to you again” stuff.
Except it wasn’t because of moving to Russia. It was for being against feminism, and being against this woman who murdered her husband by pouring kerosine on him and lighting him on fire when he was asleep (she got off by alleging abuse, and alleging that she had “battered wives syndrome”).
“Da Whale Boy” was my best friend the whole time, except he never told anyone who he really was.
–Luke
April 24, 2007 at 4:18 pm
Love your storys man. I can feel the cool breeze all the way from California. My longing to go experence this first hand grows with each of your writeings.
April 24, 2007 at 8:55 pm
yes, pretty young ladys going for spring walk is nice isn’t it.
April 25, 2007 at 1:34 am
rw,
Maybe I’m missing something all this time. Is Inessa your girl?
Anyway, you talk about walking for miles and miles when you first got to Russia. I had the same thing happen to me. These Russian girls sure like to walk and walk and walk and walk and…. (you get the picture).
I think it’s because they have low (no) car ownership that they are kind of used to it. Maybe we’ve been missing something all these years in the west. Where we take it for granted that we just drive everywhere.
Another thing - They sure as hell seem to take in all the natural beauty around them and appreciate it a whole lot more, and seem to have a knack for pointing out things that were always there but we always just walked past and never noticed (or if we’ve just arrived, never would have noticed in a million years).
They also appreciate the finer things in life a lot more than their american counterparts, maybe because they have always had a lot less material things. But I think this is the foundaton behind their beauty and their charming homely personality. I find it hard to put into words, but it kind of melts the heart in a way, If you know what I mean.
It’s absolutely right what you say about the girls just “elegantly….gliding along…… regardless of the pot holes and concrete depression” I felt exactly the same when we were out walking. It was turning dusk and we’d been walking for hours (myself and Elena). We were surrounded by depressing concrete tower blocks in all directions and square cars, from the cold war era, and a “no light at the end of the tunnel” kind of area, she seemed oblivious to this lack of hope and opportunity and simply kept on smiling as if nothing fazed her.
Finally, I must also say you are spot-on about the visual mis-match thing. Because whenever I caught our reflection in shop windows I almost had to pinch myself to make sure I wasn’t going to wake up from this real-life fairy tale.
April 25, 2007 at 3:12 am
Hi Guys,
“Rumors of my demise have been greatly exaggerated.”
Unless you consider drowning in Love to be a terminal event.
Tom Thumb..
Inessa is only a friend and it was surely an honor for her to be my initial “ambassador” to Russia.
I love the fact that you can totally related to what I’m writing with your own walks with your lady. Please keep punching away on your keyboard.
Ron..
Thanks for the compliment. I hope you can be like Tom and myself here soon and also be inspired with a sense of poetic vision when you see these girls for yourself.
Luke..
Hang in there and don’t let it get to you.. Just keep on moving forward..
GL
April 25, 2007 at 2:40 pm
Luke, he has turned to the Dark Side. You can hope for his retrieval, but do not follow him into the shadows, yourself. Let him go.
RW, it is great to hear from you again! I look forward to your posts (and pictures!) and check virtually daily to be sure I don’t miss a one.
April 25, 2007 at 4:13 pm
Dear folks,
Hello from Moscow.
I wish someone would take notice of what I say. I LIVE HERE, FOR GOD’S SAKE. IN RUSSIA. I mean…………so do you want …the truth or not?
Well firstly, the women here don’t like foreign men. They won’t go out with or consider marrying a foreigner unless they can get a lot of material wealth and benefits from him. They are more difficult to date and to mate than in other parts of the world. I’ve lived in eight other countries. Who believes me? Maybe noone does. Why is that? You’ll believe each other’s opinions and perceptions from thousands of miles across the other side of the world. But from my experiences of living in Russia I can tell you that you’ll most likely get told where to go in no polite way.
If you think I’m being too cynical, come over and see for yourself. Or better don’t because you’ll end up with no money and probably lose your self-confidence if you ever had any before.
The best bet for an obedient, possible wife is probably a fat forty or fifty-something desperately poor, ugly woman from a far eastern country, but not Russia.
Sorry to disappoint you all.
Those golden days of love and family values have left us behind, I’m afraid. What we have got left is an insane asylum of feminism, corruption and abandoned hopes and dreams.
Think I’m being negative? Come over here and feel the shock of a ruined country. Until you “get used to it”.
Best regards from Russia and from Stuart.
p.s. yes I AM leaving Russia soon , don’t worry.
April 25, 2007 at 7:31 pm
Hi Stuart,
Sorry to hear you are having such a bad time with the women there in Moscow. I was actually going to write another post about that since I have several friends in Moscow that tell me the same deal. Here’s the old post btw.
http://russianwomen.wordpress.com/2006/08/01/moscow-good-for-business-not-so-good-for-brides/
The good news is that MOSCOW is not considered by most Russians to be a truly “Russian” city because of it’s centralization of wealth and power.
So before you go slamming the entire country I’d highly recommend you get out of Moscow yourself and go to the Far East, Far North, or Siberia to find some truly classical women.
Good Luck..
GL
April 25, 2007 at 9:32 pm
Stuart, try the Philippines if Russia doesn’t work out. You probably won’t have to settle for a “fat forty or fifty-something desperately poor, ugly woman”. And if you do, I would honestly have to say it’s your own fault.
April 25, 2007 at 10:23 pm
There is a different attitude in other countries toward walking. When I first knew my present Mexican wife, I was still married to my first fiend. My present wife used to walk two miles to work, and we thought she was crazy.
We have walked over the mountain in our Third World mexican village, to the old ranch on the other side, and it took us like 3 or 4 hours, pant, pant, puff. A young man on that ranch takes 50 minutes for the same walk. It is actually quicker for him to walk, than for us to give him a ride because we would have to drive around the mountain on rough roads.
I see beautiful young women walking in front of my house every day, probably a mile or two to town center, and they are smiling as they walk by.
April 26, 2007 at 1:07 am
Stuart,
I will definately second what rw says about Moscow not being a truly Russian city. I can not speak from personal experience, however. But I have heard from several sources that Moscow, and to a lesser extent St Petersburg, are more European cities than typically Russian. Also perhaps the women that one more easily meets as a tourist, or as an outsider on business in Moscow, as in any foreign city, are not typical of the general female population either.
I, of course don’t mean to insult you. In fact, in defense of your arguament. I can also say that my girlfriend tells me (we have not travelled there together yet) that in her home city of Chelyabinsk that many of the locals, some of her friends included (family excepted), will probably not speak English to me and may choose to turn their back on me. Despite the fact that they studied the language at school, and my Russian in only average. This is partly due to their arrogance, and partly due to an unnacceptance of foreigners. I am confident however, that this will change when we all meet in person.
However, this does not take away from the fact that I can honestly say from my personal experience all I have met, at least so far, is geniune warmth, love and hospitality on an unimaginable scale. Some noticeable differcences in culture of course, but generally a very pleasurable experience.
Maybe you should take the advice and venture further afield. I think you will find a much more pleasant and welcoming Russia.
After all, would you describe to the world your feelings of the United States simply by your experience of New York City??
Of course if you still find after experience of Russia (proper), that your opinions have not changed maybe you should try what Hero says, and try the Phillipines.
Alternatively, have you considered for a moment that maybe you have the problem. I mean have you tried changing your approach to these women slightly, or do you assume that they are your “bait”, and “How dare they do not want to be on your arm?”. They are not your god-given right, and they do have the freedom to say no to you.
(That was long winded - apologies)
I am sorry if I am way off the mark here Stuart, I only intend this to be friendly advice. And I do appreciate what you say. But Moscow is not typical.
April 26, 2007 at 1:10 am
My god!
I have just looked at the length of that last reply. Sorry guys. I promise all future ones to be much shorter, don’t want to be a bore.
April 26, 2007 at 5:07 am
Tom you are certainly not a bore
I encourage you to post as much as you want.
GL
April 26, 2007 at 2:46 pm
As my favorite villain says, education is never a waste. Ramble on, Tom!
April 26, 2007 at 11:27 pm
Stuart
Try adopting the belief system of the “natural seducers”; that all women want you, that all women want you to flirt with them and that they are only pretending to be offended, women are truly hurt and offended if you DON’T see them as sexually desirable beings.
Even if I am wrong and every women in the world does not want tear my clothes off it truly is a nice way to live your life…
Women spend weeks shopping for the perfect dress, shoes, hand bag; they spend hours and hundreds of dollars in the salon getting their hair and nails done, they spend three or four hours in the bathroom plucking, pruning, trimming, waxing, putting paint on their faces…
and when they are standing around at the party or sitting at the bar they are really thinking “pick me, pick me… someone, anyone please pick me…”
It does not matter if she a 20 year old school girl or a sixty year old CEO of a multi-national corporation living in New York making 2 million a year… they would throw it all away to be in love, to be seduced, they would throw it all away to be the heroine in a romance novel…
Trapped inside every woman is that little 8 year old girl who used to sit on the floor of her bedroom playing with her dolls dreaming that one day her knight in shinning amour will come charging into her life, sweep her off her feet and take her away to live in a castle…
Lobsterman
April 26, 2007 at 11:37 pm
How to Easily Handle ‘Tests’ From a Woman
This is one of the most important messages I’ve written to you in a long time.
Read it and you will learn two tools that will help you in any time a woman tests you.
I know this is a bold statement, and I also know if you put these two tools into practice for the rest of your life you will thank me.
Have I got your attention yet?
Good. Let’s begin…
#1 The Golden Rule
If you only learn one thing from me, this is the one to BURN into your memory banks.
It will help you in attraction
It will help you pass a woman’s ‘tests’
It will help you in relationships
And it’s really simple.
No matter what happens…
EVERYTHING She Does Is CUTE
Never argue. Never explain. Never get upset.
It’s like the way you are with a puppy. Even when it chews your favorite shoe, it’s cute.
This is especially useful when things aren’t going well, or you are getting tested hard. (Remember women are ALWAYS testing you, even if you’ve been with her for years)
This is also one of the secrets to doing Banter on the fly.
Some examples for you:
Her: You’re an jerk
You: OMG You’re so cute, you’re like the mean girls in high school I was afraid to talk to.
Her: You’re a player.
You: You’re so cute, you’re like pop-psychoanalyzing me! Are you a psychic?
(Note: you can keep the “You’re so cute part” in your head. It doesn’t actually have to be verbalized.)
Her: You’ve got no game .
You: You’re gonna be my new game coach! Like how’s my body language?
Her: (Throws wadded napkin at you)
You: It’s just like junior high! This is so fun!
Do you get it?
Are light bulbs going off in your head yet? They should be.
Lots of times your first reaction is that something she does is NOT cute, but take this new frame and treat her actions like they’re cute.
This is how you can be solid as a rock no matter what kind of emotional storm a woman creates as a test.
#2 The Improve Deflection - Never Disagree
When you’re doing improve with someone, they give you what’s called an “offer.”
Example:
“Is that a head in your freezer?”
Now there’s 3 categories of responses to this question.
1. Wrong: No. “No, it’s a chicken.”
2. Bad: Yes, But. “Yes, but it’s just a fish head.”
3. Best: Yes, And. “Yes, and there’s 2 more in the cupboard.”
If this were with a woman here’s what the answers represent
1. No. Its… This is being logical. It’s what guys do and it puts women to sleep.
2. Yes, but… This is being argumentative. Anytime you say ‘but’ it negates her statement.
3. Yes, and… This opens it up for you to be playful and to deflect any tests.
Remember. Never disagree. Never argue.
Examples:
Her: That’s a bad haircut
You: I know, and I told my barber you can give me a worse haircut than that, you’re not even trying!
Her: Are you an as*hole?
You: Yeah, and I’ve been working on becoming a whole entire ass!
Her: Are you just trying to get laid?
You: Yeah, and I think if I saved up and bought those New Rock boots I’ve had my eye on I’m sure I could make it happen.
Her: Is that shirt from K-Mart?
You: Yeah, and it was like 80% off!
This shows a girl you’re un-shakeable. That generates attraction
It’s a way of showing that you are a cool guy, you’re happy and having fun and no one can shake that.
Are you getting this? Is it sinking in?
And don’t just practice when you see a hottie you want to meet.
The secret to practice is to do it everyday, all the time, with everyone.
Now go meet some fine Russian women.
Cheers,
Dave Lobsterman
April 28, 2007 at 10:01 am
That’s great insight Dave Lobsterman about the 8 year old little girl playing with dolls in all women. From my perspective it’s so true..
Thanks for sharing the info..
GL
April 30, 2007 at 1:06 am
Stuart,
Why do your experiences not match mine in Moscow? I’ve had no , zero, nada , zilch problem meeting very attractive and younger women.
I’ve met them in restaurants, trains, internet cafes, etc. And very friendly.
I suspect you are trying to throw out some sort of negative propaganda to “scare off” guys from Russia.
Wooh, there’s scary scary women out there guys. Ha.. actually, you wouldn’t be a woman would you?
April 30, 2007 at 4:27 pm
I love the “Yes” trick, it’s called “psychological Aikido” here: use your assaulter’s impetus, and overtake.
But there can be a little difference between “all women are out for a knight in shining armor” and “all women want me”… If one doesn’t qualify, this mighty vehicle is faster to run into the fortress wall…
May 1, 2007 at 12:36 pm
Newexpat … “Why do your experiences not match mine in Moscow?”
I understand your point. Very good. Congratulations.
However, if you’re open to a little clarity…
This thread isn’t so much about being able “to attract” a Moscow girl. It’s about “why would I “want” to attract a Moscow girl?”
You mention that the Moscow girls you meet seem fine enough to you and what is the problem?
What seems to be said here, and go with me on this as I haven’t been there myself “yet”–Moscow girls are not Russian girls. Insofar as it is often said that “Moscow is not Russia.”
So why go all the way to Russia for a girl who is so much not like a “real” Russian girl that she may as well be the girl next door in the West? Why go to all that trouble for that?
If it shakes your socks to have Moscow girls; then, knock yourself out. This whole thing is about “what kind of girl she probably is as a steady or a wife.” Sociology 101. etc.
I’ve lived in several major cities. Now I live in the rurals. And there is a huge difference in the character of most girls between these two kinds of demographics. Like day and night. So, what is being said makes sense to me.
My take on why this happens is basically two-fold. Options and ambitions.
The rurals give much fewer options and because the five-minutes-another-bus-comes-along thing is more like the two years along comes another bus[guy]in the rurals/Urals, they tend to shape their attitudes to being more grateful and work on relationships much more.
This has definitely been my direct experience. City girls in a man rich, rich man environment can unload a guy faster than you can say “Feminazi get his house”. And what is the goldmine of Western girls and the nightmare of men? Yes. Divorce.
So, go the other end of the spectrum. Which type of girl should you choose knowing that marriage is not always so easy? It will 100% have problems, some quite serious? A Moscow/Westernized girl? Or a much less urban Urals girl? Which one would offer more fidelity and devotion to your marriage? To you?
The grey area is the mid-sized cities.
Some girls in the city like to badmouth country/rural girls. Rural girls understand a “live” one when they see him and can go into charm mode faster than you can say Pop Diva.
If I was to put money on which girl gets him in a village, a villager or a city girl slumming, I’d put the whole wad on the village girl.
And even if you’re not aware of how it happens, I’ll bet after a while that you notice the difference between “grateful for the chance to meet and greet” and the cult of entitlement “who the hell are you, show me how special is your bank account” of many city girls.
Wanna make a Feminazi come really fast? Give her a “MenAreUseless” brand dildo made of molded actual dollar bills.
If you don’t get the joke then you don’t get why I would recommend to any man who wants the real deal to search in Russian villages, and small and medium-sized towns.
And if anyone can’t figure out how to make this off tour, where the Holiday Inns and 500 restaurant strip malls are as rare as hens teeth, happen in the quest for your best, then he should stay where is knees won’t shake so much. Wuss territory.
Yes, even those places have some spectularly obvious Barracuda’s. But if you don’t know how not to be shark bait, then live with your momma.
There’s another final saying I’ll leave you with…
“Charm a city girl … [Moscow,any big Western city] cum drop your assets”
“Charm a Urals girl … get a real[Feminine] girl for life.”
Congrats on the meet and greet part which you seem to have down pat.
May 1, 2007 at 12:48 pm
Newexpat. I should have listed the direct link in my response.
http://russianwomen.wordpress.com/2007/04/28/a-friends-view-of-moscow/
May 2, 2007 at 5:51 pm
Yeah Canuck, I understand what you’re saying. Just replying to Stuarts ” Russian/ Moscow women don’t like foreigners .. etc. etc ”
Bull.
Yes, there are sharks. Only over there they can only take little bites , at best, if you are even somewhat alert.
Over here, wellll .. you know.
Millions of people in Moscow. Just keep catch and release til you find one that’s a keeper. Avoid one-itis and lose the western feminazi indoctrination.
Nothing to fear. Certainly less than here.
May 3, 2007 at 3:16 pm
Newexpat … Just so long as you know that she may have a “catch and release” trigger of her own which is unlike anything a country girl may throw at you.
If you’re really determined to try to find her in Moscow; then, I wish you all the best. Truly.
My own experience over here at over two dozen locales, huge to tiny confirms what’s being said about Moscow girls though.
There is a significant sociological influence of locale and how this can influence relationship or marital success.
Where you meet them and where you take them will impact anyone’s relationship–whether it’s back to a Western city of many more aggressive men to girls or on the outskirts of a mid-sized Russian town which has a huge excess of girls to men–and where there is no mass transit and only you can drive or even have a licence.
Commitment is heavily influenced by options and ambitions.
June 2, 2007 at 4:04 am
I am sorry to hear that some of you believe that Moscow is such a terrible place to meet Russian women. Fortunately, five months ago I met a beautiful young woman named Ирина (16 years younger than my 51 years) who surely seems to be a blessing. She is a Moscow native. We write and speak on the phone daily and we are both patiently waiting until I can afford to travel to Moscow to meet her face to face.
June 2, 2007 at 5:23 am
Hi Christopher,
You actually have a good point that I didn’t mention.
In Russia and the FSU it is much more difficult for a single woman in her 30’s and above to find a serious man for marriage in Russia. In general you are dealing with women who have a high degree of grattitude for a real relationship in their lives regardless of the location. What you have experienced makes a great deal of sense and you are certainly lucky to have this potential relationship in your life.
Good Luck Christopher and please keep us informed.
GL
June 3, 2007 at 3:19 am
Thank you for responding to my post and for your kind words. Ирина does find it almost impossible to meet Russian men interested in marriage even though she is slim and a real beauty, divorced with no children. Meanwhile, she is far more interesting to me than the American women in their late 40s or 50s typically available to a 51 year old guy in the USA. And her ability to speak and write in English are excellent. Now I need to learn some Russian, so that, as she joked with me on the phone today, “sometime soon” we can have a conversation only in Russian.
By the way, after reading quite a bit about Russian women, including some of the horror stories such as potential problems with agencies, scammers, etc., I met Ирина through a website which facilitates both national and international pen pals for people of all ages. I simply specified that I was interested in a female Russian pen pal under age 40 and Ирина responded to my request. Because of the way we met, from the start I knew that she likely wasn’t a scammer or someone seeking either a way out of Russia or a way into the USA. In fact, she never imagined she would even consider the possibility of leaving family, friends, and the city and country she loves in order to move to a foreign country. But she would consider doing this–as hard as it would be for her–only to be with her man–the man she loves. I wonder if other guys have also met Russian women in similiar circumstances.