I’ve come to the unfortunate conclusion that the important news site DIGG is either suppressing or burying any attempts to suggest any of my post to their readers.
Several of my post that have been previously submitted by our readers to DIGG have quickly been “buried”.
I’ve had this done several times before and I question why there is any controversy associated with this blog when other Men’s sites which merely promote sexy images of women get heavily promoted. Even more disturbing is the fact that various Marriage Agencies which promote themselves as “Mail Order Bride” vendors are also allowed to have their pages listed.
I have to openly wonder if the key contributing members of DIGG or maybe even their own staff have any agenda in wanting to supress information which promotes Traditionally Beautiful and Feminine Women? Do they only feel comfortable promoting Women as 2 dimensional objects for viewing pleasure only?
I honestly hope that someone proves me wrong on this but if any of you have any suggestions or contacts that you know of to try to remedy this..
I would greatly appreciate it.
Thanks..
October 21, 2007 at 7:08 am
Feminists (a contradiction in terms if ever there was one), move in mysterious, destructive and illogical ways…
October 21, 2007 at 5:59 pm
RW Man,
Thank you for pointing me to your post about visible and invisible power. I read it with great interest. It strikes me that you make an excellent point — and I personally have resolved to develop what you call my “invisible power”. Sadly my mother, wonderful as she is, did not pass much of that on to me!
It is funny actually — for the past couple of days I have been back in London for the weekend, and since reading your post I’ve been making a conscious effort to smile at people more, thank them more, and speak more softly and calmly. It’s been… nice. Really nice. I feel like people are responding to me quite differently and each interaction becomes a nice little moment rather than just a transaction. It brightens my day as well as (I hope) theirs.
But I have a question for you regarding your theory. Do you think tht what you call “invisible power” is *only* held by women? It strikes me that men can be very charming, charismatic and persuasive in their own way! Love to know your thoughts on this.
October 21, 2007 at 6:35 pm
How unfortunate. Your website is such a refreshing one about what feminity should be! Not only for men, but for other women to learn from as well.
I feel like that it is an art that is being lost. Much like social etiquette, or the concept of being courteous.
I will do what I can to promote your site. I am not with Digg, however I do have a del.icio.us account. What think you of del.icious?
October 21, 2007 at 6:39 pm
Hello Anon girl,
Thanks so much for your support. Del.icious or another site like reddit would be great for promoting this site.
Also I’ve just signed up for StumbledUpon. If you go to Mascha’s first video and click their icon below the video then that might also help to promote what we are trying to do here.
Thanks Again!
GL
October 21, 2007 at 7:29 pm
Hello VisitingGirl,
You put a smile on my face by telling me that you found this post to be insightful.
I feel honored that you as a woman have actually taken steps to embrace an “invisible power” that I see here everyday.
Men certainly have invisible power as well but it’s most natural incarnation obviously belongs to women. In my mind Men have to be much more disciplined, mature and work much harder in order to achieve it.
But Women on the other hand have the deep potential for this characteristic in spades.
For example all young girls naturally knows what it means to be “coy” even if they don’t even know what the word means. This is because the influence or the “magic” that comes with this power was given to you the day you were born.
All women.. especially while expressing their innocence, optimism and openness to the world have the potential to carry around with them a very powerful magic wand which mysteriously opens many doors that are more often then not closed to others.
We often call this special something..
Charisma…
I believe that most Russian Women wield this power with a combination of quiet pride and hidden integrity. And this is one of the things which makes them so mysterious and enigmatic to many.
I know this is going to be an unusual analogy but I want to make it to illustrate a point. A typical North American Drama Queen will never find herself starting in a James Bond movie. Unless of course she is the next evil villain.. But guess what type of female character has been most readily casted as a Bond girl?
Starting to get the picture?
In any case Visiting Girl please keep up the great progress with your observations and your personal development along these lines. Perhaps someday in the future you will also have the ability to use your womanly charms to wield great influence..
With just a well placed smile..
GL
October 21, 2007 at 7:39 pm
October 22, 2007 at 4:50 am
GL, I’m going to give you my honest answer to your question. I’m not sure it’s the answer that you are looking for, but it is the honest answer.
GL, the reason why an increasing number of Western men are becoming comfortable with seeing women as 2 dimensional objects for their viewing pleasure only is because all they have ever known is a world in which women see them as 2 dimensional objects for money purposes only.
They live in a world in which men are fodder for the divorce industry and for golddiggers in general. So I’m not surprised at all at their reaction in seeing women only as 2 dimensional objects. I’m not making a judgment on whether it’s right or wrong, I’m just saying that I’m not surprised.
What goes around comes around.
October 22, 2007 at 3:48 pm
I don’t use Digg. You’re getting a first taste of why. (Oh yes: there’s a whole smorgasbord of this kind of treat in there. I don’t recommend sampling.)
October 22, 2007 at 5:34 pm
Okay…
I’ve just started looking into it, and it seems GL & Peregrine are right.
Digg is corrupt.
This thread is over a year old, but seems to sum up the issues:
http://forevergeek.com/news/digg_corrupted_editors_playground_not_userdriven_website.php
October 22, 2007 at 5:41 pm
605,000 hits for for ‘digg moderators bury stories’ on Google.
Q.E.D.
October 22, 2007 at 6:01 pm
Interesting case!
Now you know that KGB is not the worst thing :))
Honestly, I never use Digg and I never wanted to…May be felt something…
October 22, 2007 at 6:42 pm
Ok I’ve started playing with a Digg competitor called StumbleUpon and so far it looks pretty cool.
There are two ways you can promote pages that you like.
FIRST WAY
1. Go to http://www.stumbleupon.com sign-up and download there very good stumbleupon browser tool bar. Now normally I hate putting up extra tool bars on my browser but this one is pretty cool and useful.
2. After installing Toolbar come back to any of our pages here in this blog and click the “thumbs up” icon.
3. If it’s never been submitted before then it will prompt you to write an optional comment about the site and then submit it.
SECOND WAY..
1. Go to the following links below and you will see to nice green “StumbleUpon” buttons underneath the videos on both pages.
http://russianwomen.wordpress.com/2007/10/12/our-first-video-with-a-fine-young-russian-lady/#comment-22011
http://russianwomen.wordpress.com/2007/10/14/video-2-maschas-walk/
2. Just click any of the button’s I’ve put up and then register as a new user if you haven’t already done so yet. If not then you are done and my pages will be listed in a growing social news site and that will greatly help our cause here.
Thanks for all of your support! GL
October 22, 2007 at 11:41 pm
Ahoj again!
So sorry to hear that your website is being buried. I can understand how people might find ideas expressed here to be radical/novel if they aren’t familiar with non-Western cultures, but offensive or in need of censorship? That, I don’t get. There’s nothing on here that’s salacious or even racy. If you look at sites like MySpace, Facebook, etc., there are pictures of girls (American) grabbing each other, sticking their tongues out, drinking in excess, etc…so I think these would be much more appropriate sites for feminists to criticize.
I admire you for appreciating non-Western women. Yes, you have built a website, but more importantly, you have built a life for yourself in a country and culture into which you weren’t born (or at least that’s my impression — my apologies if I’m misguided.) And I admire people (both expats and immigrants) who can do that, who can go to a place and establish a life for themselves in what amounts to an entirely different world.
October 23, 2007 at 2:37 am
Hi all,
I just sent this to GL in form of an email, mainly because I thought the question was kind of specific but at GL’s urging I’m throwing it out here so that everyone can point at laugh at me or learn from GL… or both, whatever works for you good folks (no self-esteem issues here).
A little about me, I’m a college graduate currently (philosophy, yay!) and I’ve made a decision recently to pursue employ with the State Department in hopes of getting assigned to Russia, as I’ve long been a Russophile. So here’s my question, I’m contractually obligated to stay with my current employer into 2010, given that the Russian economy is booming, do you think that FSU women will still be interested in pursuing a relationship with a foreigner in three or four years time? I know that’s a pretty big question, given that that’s a lot of time for things to change. But you’re actually over there and have a good idea of what’s happening currently and what’s happened in the past, so I thought I’d try to start a dialogue with you and see what you had to say about my question. No rush on this, obviously, and I thank you in advance for your time and, once again, for your site.
-MJ
October 23, 2007 at 11:07 am
MJ - definitely an interesting question.
I would say that most of the impact of economic prosperity will continue to be felt mostly in the major cities - basically Moscow and St Petersburg.
Outlying regions will feel the effects, but not anywhere near as dramatically.
Whole cultures will not change overnight, or in 3-4 years for that matter, and the underlying reasons for some Russian ladies to seek foreign husbands will remain.
i.e. The vast majority are NOT looking abroad for financial or materialistic reasons, or looking to simply “escape” from any economic hardships.
If you’re the right kind of guy - you have nothing to worry about.
October 23, 2007 at 1:36 pm
Hi MJ,
I agree with Shaun’s assertions.
Russia is a huge country and there are many areas that you could go into that have very little exposure to the West from a materialistic perspective.
So yes you’ll be fine when you are ready to come over.. That’s not to say that certain things won’t change because they will. Just find the right patch of green grass it’s there..
Good Luck..
GL
October 23, 2007 at 4:22 pm
Hello Anicka,
I’ve wondered frequently about your comments as well in terms of what we are all promoting here vs. the more scanky stuff you would find on any other blog or social network site.
I think the information here could be very threatening to a large percentage of Women in the West. And if that’s the case then I can understand the motive behind the campaign for attempting to bury this site.
Oh well.. we are gaining solid momentum.. so it’s only a matter of time before we break out.
Thank you by the way for your validation of my living here. I’ve kept an open mind from the start and realized that I wasn’t the first person in the world to move to another country to setup shop. I’m sure all of our ancestors have done it at one time or another so I don’t really think too much of it… Just continue to roll with what I feel is the right thing to do and hope the message get out.
But still.. your words and your insights are deeply appreciated so please keep them coming
Cheers.. GL
October 23, 2007 at 5:10 pm
RW man (or anyone else who would like to chime in)
I have two further questions… I have been pondering all of this quite a lot. Apologies for being so inquisitive
1. On the ‘invisible power’ thing, it also occurred to me that exercising this power is something that women are often criticised for, i.e. being ‘manipulative’ or ’scheming’. You’ve referred in this website to your lady having planted a remote control device on you, her power over you is so strong! Do you think there is a danger in moving from being subtly coercive to being manipulative, and how might a woman walk that fine line?
2. On a completely different note (maybe!): As part of my job I am managing a team of 10 Russian me, mostly 20-25 years older than me and with far more experience in the oil industry. I need them to do a lot of work for me in the next two months. Do you have any thoughts or tips on how best to manage Russian men in this situation?
Look forward to hearing what you have to say.
October 23, 2007 at 9:49 pm
Hi VisitingGirl,
I don’t see a Real Woman’s invisible power as being manipulative at all.
Quite the opposite..
A Man WANTS to feel a Woman’s Invisible Power especially when the right motives are behind it. He loves it because this power comes in many forms that he craves.
Nourishing, sexy, supportive, mysterious, charismatic.. and on and on.
This isn’t too hard to understand.. Think about this for a second.
If a Man made you feel extremely sexy with the way he behaved and talked to you.. wouldn’t you naturally have a desire to put the effort out to look sexy as often as you could for him?
Are you being manipulated by this?
I don’t think so..
Because you are being nourished and validated in a way that normal women naturally crave. And a man who is able to do this to you understands the power of this “chemistry” well.
Try not to buy into the “Feminist Dogma” that seeks the most pessimistic vantage point for relations between Men and Women and declares it as a war or as a manipulative contest.
This benefits no one and is completely destructive for society as a whole. Embrace the fact that the more you empower the Men around you.. The more they will naturally empower you back.. and this is the crux behind what Invisible Power is all about.
It’s as simple as the Golden Rule isn’t it?
As far as managing Russian Men.. I don’t anticipate you having any problems. I expect that they will be more fascinated by you and will go out of their way to understand and accommodate you since you are a visiting foreigner.
Good Luck! GL
October 23, 2007 at 10:49 pm
Shaun & GL,
After I made my post I almost added a caveat stating that I don’t think that FSU women are getting involved with foreign men for fiscal reasons. Obviously I didn’t add said post-script and, though I don’t think my post sounds like I am calling the integrity of these women into question, I should have worded my question better. Which is not to say that my question was unanswered, only that my question made me questionable. Maha.
Anyway, thanks to the both of you for your quick responses. I’ve thoroughly enjoyed the site here thusfar and look forward to reading and posting more in the future as I continue to work toward my goal of spending time in the FSU.
On another tangental note, what are some of the major differences between the regions of the Russian Federation? Is it as diverse, in terms of different opinions and attitudes as, for example, the States? If so, or not, what are some of the things to look for in terms of differences in respect to how the women and social systems work?
-MJ
November 8, 2007 at 6:44 pm
I am curious, gentlemen. (And sorry for the abrupt change of subject, but I never know where to put these random questions and poor old Mascha has been disturbed too often already!)
I am curious — what do you think of the newish crop of dating books like ‘The Rules’? A lot of those Rules are about being a bit more traditional than women are normally, and seek to reintroduce some old-time romance into dating. On the other hand the Rules are quite manipulative. Have any of you read it and have an opinion?
VG
November 8, 2007 at 6:48 pm
PS Don’t let not having read a book stop you from loving/hating it
There’s a summary of the Rules on Wikipedia:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Rules
November 10, 2007 at 11:02 am
Okay, I read the rules.
Overall, they strike me as a sad attempt to create a “false version” of something that has been long lost in the Modern West…
When women followed those rules 50-60 years ago, they were just “the normal way of going about things”… hence not manipulative.
In a present-day context, they come across as horribly manipulative, because they are superficial now. Because the values that they were based on in the old days don’t exist anymore in the minds of modern women. It’s just a false external veneer.
November 10, 2007 at 11:07 am
Honestly, the more I read things like this, the more convinced I become that pursuing a modern / Western woman is a complete waste of energy.
Because now even if you find one who appears to be traditionally-minded, they might be faking by following things like this.
Russia or bust.
November 10, 2007 at 11:42 am
Ironically, the “nicest” girls may be the ones who readily lap up mainstream feminist nonsense when they are young (following what they were taught). Then they become totally bitter and jaded when real life fails to live up to the expectations thay have been taught to expect. Similar to how “nice” well-meaning guys become manginas…
Shame on the Liberals and Cultural Marxists & their lackies in academia and the media for what they have done to society
Okay… that’s my last rant for today.
November 10, 2007 at 3:09 pm
“The follow up book ‘The Rules for Marriage: Time-Tested Secrets for Making Your Marriage Work’ was, ironically, published around the time Ellen Fein’s marriage broke up.”
That’s all I have to say about that.
-Forest.. Forest Gump
November 11, 2007 at 8:20 am
I agree with some of those rules, but it seems the book is prompting women to create a false image of themselves, as socon said. That is not a strong foundation on which to build a life-long marriage.
A woman of a certain character will do some of those things naturally, which is why they worked in the past. It wasn’t the “rules” that worked, it was the character of the woman that made it work.
November 11, 2007 at 2:41 pm
In contrast with the ‘The Rules’ does anyone have an opinion on arranged marriages where it’s impossible for a woman to play hard to get?
November 11, 2007 at 8:27 pm
I often think arranged marriages would simplify things enormously. Choice can be a curse — hell is 57 varieties. You can spend your whole 20’s dithering about who to marry and waste a lot of time.
However, I am not sure that my parents would be the best ones to choose my husband for me. They know me in my role as daughter, not my role as lover and partner. There is one group that I would trust completely to choose a good husband for me: my ex-boyfriends.
Unfortunately not a very practical solution though…
November 15, 2007 at 11:51 am
You should have more trust in your parents
A good daughter makes a good wife
November 17, 2007 at 12:22 am
If anyone’s interested on some perspective on how the outside world might view this project the key concepts to keep in mind would be ‘creepy’ and ‘bitter’.
You can’t argue with pictures of cute chicks but, seriously, the bitterness. Pedal way off on the rants, would be the advice you don’t want to hear. Just sayin’.
November 17, 2007 at 7:52 am
“If anyone’s interested on some perspective on how the outside world might view this project the key concepts to keep in mind would be ‘creepy’ and ‘bitter’.”
Well-meaning passerby:
I think that if you actually made the effort to read and internalise more of the material on this site, you would find much more genuine delight and appreciation for truly traditional Russian Women, and much less bitter rants…
Furthermore, such rants are totally legitimate given the present state regarding Western women. And in this context, serve only to re-inforce the contrast between the two groups of women, and provide incentives to Men to make something better of their lives.
As for the “outside world”, I would surmise that such people are those who are still plugged into “The Matrix” of liberal dogma and media culture. To this I can only respond “Those who know, know; and those who don’t will have to learn soon enough.”
As far as “creepy” and “bitter” are concerned I would suggest you visit some Feminist blogs or even radical Men’s Rights blogs to see what really “creepy” and “bitter” are all about.
November 17, 2007 at 4:27 pm
Well-Meaning Passer-by,
“creepy” and “bitter”?
You are being extremely vague. If your intentions are so sincere, please give specific examples of “creepy” and “bitter”.
-Mick
November 18, 2007 at 7:42 am
Let me say I fail for the scam type one time learned a hard lesson. So I will say that a Russian girl is hard to find in US. Anyway I have dated a couple and will say that they are the most trusting people I have ever meet. I would prefer to marry a Russian woman. I just do not know If I will ever meet the right one only God willing I do not know. Only he does until then I am just a single man looking for a moral wife.
December 6, 2007 at 5:19 am
My 2 cents on Mick’s question about arranged marriages.
I work with many Indians and Pakistanis for whom this is the norm (more so with Indians, it seems.) One Indian girl told me how she met and married her husband. She lives in America and she returned home for her sister’s wedding. She met a man there briefly, and the next day her parents asked her if she’d like to marry him. She told me that her parents were very progressive in that they asked her rather than telling her. Soon after, the man came to visit with his parents. The two of them sat in one room talking, while the parents sat in the next room getting to know each other. They had about an hour together, then the man and his parents left. Her mother asked her what she thought - did she want to marry him? (Again, very progressive.) She said yes.
I asked her how she could possibly make this decision after such a short time. She said: unless there was something seriously wrong with him, there was no reason to refuse him. It wasn’t as if someone better was going to come along the next day.
Their marriage didn’t occur for a few months (also unusual). He lived in America too, and after they both returned, they were allowed to see each other and date a few times, unchaperoned, before they were married (ditto..)
I asked her if Indians ever married for love, against the wishes of their parents. She said that an Indian marriage isn’t just a marriage of 2 people, but a merging of 2 families. And both families have an extremely vested interest in the marriage working out, and will support the couple through thick and thin - IF both families approve of the match. If someone marries against the wishes of their parents, without both families approving, this support isn’t there. She said that if problems arise in the marriage, and she calls her parents for advice, they will only say “We told you so. Don’t ask us for advice. You’re on your own.” Which is unthinkable.
Bizarre, huh? Our legacy from the freewheeling 60’s, freeing us from the shackles of tradition, says that by bonking hundreds of people and shacking up together, we can make a MUCH better decision about who to marry. And as of this writing, we have a 60% divorce rate. Coincidence? You decide.