We can learn a lot about ourselves as Men by taking the time to observe other living things in nature.
And one of the deepest discoveries we can make is understanding just how much effort Mother Nature has put into programing much of our self-esteem as Men to be dependent on Women.
(And of course the opposite is equally true)
Young or Old.
Experienced or Not.
There are always different levels of dependencies through all phases of life.
If we take a look at the animal kingdom for example we can see why.
Because in the animal world it’s the male that try’s to attract or approach a female for mating. And it’s the female that either accepts or rejects his overtures.
Now what that means for us Men is pretty simple and profound…
Because on a genetic level a HUGE part of our self-esteem is naturally dependent on women.
It’s been hard wired that way from the time we were conceived.
And although this trait is what keeps humanity alive and well…
It can also be used to exploit us from more malicious members of the opposite sex.
Now because of this I know there are a number of Men’s Rights groups out there that advocate the complete rejection of this desire. They often say that Men should somehow eliminate this desire and stop “needing” women.
And let me take a moment to surprise you readers to say that I support their advocacy of this up to a point..
I certainly agree with them when poison is the only thing that’s being offered and it’s a matter of survival to completely reject it.
But let’s even go beyond this for a second and not think in terms of self-preservation.
Let’s look at a Man’s personal growth.
I know first hand that there are extremely positive aspects on truly not needing women especially if you are on a mission of self-discovery and self-development as a Man.
And I can personally give you very strong testimony on this and say that when Men do this with honest intent to themselves and with persistence..
Then over time they will truly find themselves in a very strong, satisfying and fulfilling space.
(And a common side effect of this is that they are immediately more attractive to women)
Now self discovery is all fine and good but on the opposite end of the emotional scale there also exist a different agenda for “not needing women”.
For example..
I find that all of us.. both men and women.. will at some time in their lives try to protect their egos from the threat of rejection by playing a game of what I call “Rejection Hot Potato“.
Let’s toss you out like a hot potato before you can toss me.
Because if I’m the one who tosses you first then I can be the one to tell everyone and myself that I was the one who rejected you!!
Now to be fair I’d like to say that on the surface there is NOTHING wrong with this.
It’s because EVERYONE has done this at some point. It’s a necessary part of the emotional survival process because trying to function on a day to day basis with a crushed spirit is not an easy thing to do and can actually threaten your ability to survive.
We can just hope that playing “emotional hot potato” evolves into a valuable growing experience that can serve us well in understanding both ourselves and others and help us to develop compassion for all.
Now in light of recent events it’s become clear to me that there is a certain percentage of members within the Men’s Rights groups who are going through this stage.
And again I’d like to repeat that there is nothing wrong or shameful about this.
However where this gets to be a problem is if they are locked into this mode and it prevents them from finding the next happier transformation in their lives which depends on developing a truly loving and supportive relationship.
Now if this is the case then obviously this is not the most positive outcome.
So when we take inventory and look back at the above motivations for “not needing women” we still find that both of them leave us hanging out with Mr. Solitude.
It may be negative solitude or a positive one..
But as we all know a Man was never meant to live on bread alone.
And when that hunger for more diverse emotional and physical nourishment takes over it’s time to really take stock of things and to be very honest with ourselves.
So let’s get back to Mother Nature’s finely tuned engineering plans for our emotional health as Men.
Because it seems so funny sometimes that I feel the need to go through so detailed an explanation just to justify myself and say something so simple as..
“Men need Women and it is GOOD”…
But alas this is the result of the sad and distorted times in which we live in where playing “emotional hot potato” seems to be the protective body armor that so many of us are forced to wear because of the ongoing war that exists between Western Men and Women.
So here’s the deal…
Playing “Emotional Hot Potato” and living in solitude was NEVER meant to be the default setting in the mechanism of life..
It is not the natural state of affairs.
And it is certainly NOT Good.
This is going to be true no matter how many of us go through our daily lives trying to look cool and seemingly disconnected from the opposite sex.
And what’s truly sad is my eyes is when you see Men going into denial about their real needs and actually believing it.
(Too often it’s mainly because Men weakly succumb to some childish name calling on the part of the feminist who want them to feel foolish for seeking their own genetic destiny for love and family)
Well now these Men are really screwed because they have just made it that much more harder for them to get what their body and soul truly requires by going into denial about it in the first place.
And they were easily manipulated by the Feminist into this position.
There is really only one true solution in all of this.
And it’s the obvious one.
Because when you guys have actually done what it takes to have a Real Woman by your side then the world just completely changes.
You have an unbelievable sense of freedom and stature that allows you to walk into a room that maybe filled to the brim with the most malicious of feminists.
But you find yourself blessed because you just simply don’t care about them anymore.
You have absolutely no more emotional dependencies on them or any other women outside of your home environment.
When they carry on with their usual slander and bile you can choose to speak your mind and embarass the living hell out of them or you can just choose to smile and be on your merry way.
In either case..
You’ve got NOTHING to prove.
This my friends is True Liberation because for most of your life there were walls around you whose builders had much invested in making sure that you were contained.
But now..
The walls are still there but you simply have the ability to just walk right through them at will.
And this upsets the builders to no end.
But none of this will happen unless you are real with yourself and completely understand that.
“Men need Women and it is GOOD”.
Being true to this is the real path of courage and not the opposite way around.
And with a little bit of this courage and an open heart there will come a day when you will have what you need Gentlemen.
And when this happens..
Just remember I told you so.
July 22, 2008 at 4:00 am
I do agree with this post. Though I was looking for more pics of the russian women.
I think you can pretty much boil down the western hot potato phenomenon to choice. Women here can afford to play this game because the men outnumber the girls here(well at least in Texas anyway).
Women of beauty will be approached 10-15 times a day in public so really they can’t spend the time to get to know each good natured man.
You have to stand out, and playing hard to get is the requisite to getting the girls here. I hate it because you end up acting in a way you wouldnt do naturally.
Now in Russia I can imagine since there are more girls than guys, that they can’t afford to play these games. This leads me to believe I was born in the wrong country. Lol.
July 23, 2008 at 2:28 am
Hello Mascha! I also have a friend named Mascha here in the states. She is Russian. Here accent is a mixture of Russian, American, and Spanish. So much slang has corrupted people my age (23) and I find that the Russian’s who speak English are much clearer at times. They try more to be sincere, as you are. I dated a Russian, just recently, he was (26) I enjoyed our relationship until it’s end this year. But their were some things I find to be intollerable, that you speak of here in your video. The men should see these problems and work on them. Otherwise they risk loosing beautiful women such as you and I. Look forward to your next video, your perspective is very interesting.
July 26, 2008 at 12:43 pm
I agree it’s not normal for men to be alone throughout their lives. However, here in the Western world, it’s very risky to be involved with a woman, who can turn on you at any moment like a highly venomous, bad tempered snake with no warning, provocation or repercussions to herself. I do not mistreat or abuse women, but there is little to be gained to go out of my way to have any contact whatsoever with them. At best, they get rude or otherwise act like I’m some poisonous snake about to rob their nest. After years of downright nastiness on western women’s part I no longer want anything more to do with them. So I really don’t care what they think about me because this is a mind over matter situation. I’m an average guy like countless millions of others women just don’t seem to see literally. In my mind, they don’t matter. I don’t matter at all in their’s, so I’m returning the favor. Western women will die old and alone before they accept the fact that a carrot works a lot better than a stick when it comes to eliciting positive attention from men.
Taras
July 27, 2008 at 4:04 am
I have found this to be very true GL. I’m not sure why myself but it is getting stronger. It’s almost like long buried instincts are surfacing and driving me in ways that I never was interested in before.
July 29, 2008 at 10:29 am
I never thought I was meant to be alone, but as Taras points out, I seem on the wrong continent, cannot afford now to get away and no longer have trust nor faith in what is here in North America for choice. Best get over the need and learn the existing family is all that remains.
August 9, 2008 at 4:06 am
You know, an idea that should be circulated amongst guys like yourselves a lot more often is that Midwestern American women pretty much have all the same promises as Russian women but there is no risk of cultural mistranslation. Please, do THOSE women a favor. Think Feminism is putting wall after wall in your path, frustrating your existence as men and reproductive beings with androgyny, man-hating, emasculation, unrealistic expectations, and interracial dating? Go to all the places in the country where those things will turn up ordinary people’s noses as much as they do yours. There are plenty of them for sure. The women might NOT be shoveling on as much makeup as in the coastal cities but they will certainly be better bred. Exogamy can be a natural impulse, but don’t think two thousand miles away, think two hours away. Just don’t give up and waste your time on an elusive concept of a women that is both totally impossible and surprisingly immoral in the context of your own culture. Seriously, there are plenty of girls in the backwoods areas of America, and among them I am absolutely certain that you will find a truly worthwhile one. As for the women who are making your life hell? See past the make-up and the fashion and reconsider how desirable they really are, even if only in physical terms. Put in some thought as to whether they might actually be gay. Spread the word, and do yourselves one more favor by checking out the following: http://agencyscams.com. Unfortunately the website does not seem to be working lately, which is bad news for the uninformed. Look it up in Google and click on the “cached” link, bottom right of every single search hit.
August 9, 2008 at 1:36 pm
Marcus, I’ve been all over the U.S. except for the northwest and everywhere I went I saw the same things. Women kissing each other. Women with more tattoos than a platoon of U.S. Marines. Women hanging out with thugs or having several children who obviously were not all from the same father. It’s the same garbage everywhere you go here in the U.S. Marcus. It might be somewhat less noticeable, but it’s there all the same. Some of us like myself have concluded correctly the U.S. is in a death dive like a torpedoed submarine plunging to the sea floor 20,000 feet below. Do you want to go along for this ride to your own premature demise? I don’t, and being involved with a train wreck American woman is definitely a death dive for you.
Taras
August 9, 2008 at 7:46 pm
Marcus,
As a point of reference, I am originally from the Midwest and have been there frequently since moving to the Pacific Northwest over 25 years ago. The morals and ethics of Midwestern women played no small part in my leaving that region to begin with. Even though I was in my 20s, working as a photographer and playing bass guitar in a popular local rock band, the availability of women was not an issue but the quality of women was. As I resettled in the Seattle area I found that the primary difference between the Midwestern girls and the Northwestern girls was purely quantity, and certainly not quality. What’s more, that perception changed very little as I began traveling with a budding broadcasting career and my continued work as a photographer. I continued in the entertainment field and branched out into acting along with standup comedy. Still the prospect of making a life with an American woman was dim at best. I found myself, as many men do, trying to find someone who was less of a downer that the rest.
Ultimately it became clear that I must either accept empty, short term relationships, being alone for the rest of my life, or trying to completely rebuild myself from the ground up seeking a totally different lifestyle and environment to find happiness. Choosing the latter, I kept my ace in the hole which was photography, and I started a marketing business. I had some success and I started investing. I had more success and I made many important friendships in business and broadened my personal contacts. I was a new man.
Eventually, I met a pretty young woman who claimed to have the same plans and desires as my own. I liked her family and my family liked her. We were married, bought a house and began a life together. Within a year she began coming home later and later always saying that it was work related and her boss needed her help. Soon her boss was asking her to run errands outside of work and just as with the unpaid extra hours, I protested saying it was unprofessional and inappropriate. One night my wife called to say that after a few hours of “overtime” her boss was taking her and a couple other employees to pizza and a movie. I told her to come home first or don’t come home at all. When I woke in the morning to find that my wife had not come home, I took the day off, moved all of her belongings into the driveway, changed the locks on the house and called a lawyer. Oh, by the way, my wife’s boss was a female and I knew what sort so there was no doubt in my mind that her effect on my wife’s thinking was complete.
My second North American wife was from Quebec, Canada and to make this long story short, after a year of dating, a year of marriage, a new baby girl and a year of post partum followed by clinical depression, self medication and the influence of her bitter, divorced, man hating friends, she was drinking heavily, drugging regularly and sleeping around until she found the guy with the biggest **** and moved out leaving me, my daughter and a fine suburban home behind.
All of my past relationships were much like those of most other people except that I didn’t wander, run around, cheat or whatever else you want to call it. I was always loyal to the person I was with and that is one of the keys to lasting relationships. The grass is never greener. Trust me. You cheat, you lose. Everyone loses. I was also raised that you never hit a woman so that was never part of my repertoire. I was taught to treat women with respect and to acknowledge the importance of their place in the world. I always have, and still do, try to make a woman feel wanted, needed and special.
I’ve dated women from the Florida Keys to Los Angeles, Wisconsin to Texas, Louisiana to Quebec, Colorado to British Columbia, Seattle to Mexico City and a few other places as well. Starving actresses, working comedians, radio personalities, models, secretaries and factory workers alike; North American women have one thing in common and that is the “get in for as short a time as you can and get out with as much as you can” philosophy.
While my experience has shown me many couples who have solid marriages and stable families, they are clearly the tiniest of minorities in our society and the prospects of stumbling into such a situation are diminishing by the second. And as skeptical as I may be about finding the relationship of my dreams outside of the US and Canada, I am equally intrigued that there might actually be somewhere on Earth that still, overall, sees things my way.
As for this thought being, “surprisingly immoral in the context of your own culture”, I can only say by what measure? The socio-political landscape of North America is so desperately endangered now that I fear for my daughter’s immediate future, to say nothing of her children or her children’s children. Our nation has gone so far beyond the blending or melting pot as to have completely destroyed the very concept of our basic way of life. My thoughts and those of countless other men to seek a companion of consistent European lineage is more morally sound than settling for the least undesirable, over diluted, unknown heritage of some ‘possibly’ honest, ‘possibly’ sincere, ‘possibly’ “worthwhile” down home, Midwest, country girl. From my own life experience I can say that it is more likely to win a state lottery than it is to find true, life long happiness with a North American woman.
Are there plenty of good women in the US? Of course there are. Are there infinitely more men of quality seeking to ‘land’ that one in a million? Abso-freakin-lutely. Excuse this analogy but just like a trophy hunter knows that there is always going to be one bigger set of antlers eventually, an intelligent man knows that there will always be some woman that could change his life forever. However the chances that he is the one that will find that perfect prize are so low that he will probably quit hunting long before the frustration of not succeeding kills him.
By the way, regarding the scams on foreign dating web sites, please know that it is seriously not limited to any country. Even though Russia, Africa and a few other countries are the primary hot beds for this activity, the FCC reports literally thousands of financial scam artists operating the exact same ruses right here at home. The enforcement of laws and prosecution of offshore perpetrators is more newsworthy and it is a good thing to be aware of, but it is just as likely to come from next door as it is from the other side of the planet.
August 9, 2008 at 7:55 pm
I would add too that I have seen a lot of mid-western guys onethese type of sites as well. No matter where you are in the modern western culture you are affected by the feminist agenda. There really is no region that has not been impacted by it.
I happen to know of 3 of these couples where the wife has accepted the role of homemaker and full time mother and is enjoying her role in the marriage. That’s 3 out of the many many couples that I know of.
This site is not just about Russian women either, it is about men standing up for themselves and trying to correct the damage that has been done by feminists in their reign. Marrying a traditional woman, no matter from what continent she is from, is the biggest step we can take in beginning to reclaim real equality back.
August 9, 2008 at 10:37 pm
I’m from the Midwest (Iowa) and I can honestly say it’s no different here than anywhere else that’s been described. Additionally many Midwestern states are experiencing a youth drain and young women are leading the exodus. A single farmer from North Dakota did a survey a few years ago at the high schools in his area asking what the students plans were after they graduated. Most of the males wanted to stay around their hometowns and work but not one on the females wanted to stay. This is no joke, I’ve heard of country singles events where 50 guys will show up and maybe 5 women. Sure there may be good women out here somewhere but the competition is fierce and going too deep into the backwoods is just dangerous. I hope I didn’t offend any Dolly Parton fans.
-Mick
August 10, 2008 at 12:08 am
I think this link may help…
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Iqnm3A10m8I
August 10, 2008 at 4:18 pm
With a skewed situation like that, it’s not worth the effort anymore looking for a wife here in the U.S. No doubt most are leaving because they want to purse careers or economic opportunities they can’t or believe they can’t find at home. Some however leave so they can be hookers, porn stars or otherwise be the amoral, trashy skanks they are anonymously in a big urban Hell hole somewhere. When young women openly and proudly aspire to be a prostitute or a porn star, you know there’s something rotten in Denmark, and it’s not something decaying in the swamps.
Taras
August 10, 2008 at 6:16 pm
The exodus from mid-America began around the same time as the women’s movement but the two are only partially connected. As regular census and other data are collected a key point in our culture has been to track the staying power of the heartland families. Sadly the primary reason for the breakdown was not the booming industrial growth in metropolitan areas, and it was more than simply the call of fame and fortune to the young folks, but it was primarily the severe fall off of independent agriculture and the clear stress it put on families which triggered the decline. As numerous families who held large farms dating back to homestead times (such as my own) were faced with the advent of commercial industrialization in farming, the independent farms became less and less necessary to the food chain. Consequently the small farmers had to begin not only teaching their children to develop alternative career paths, but they also began taking jobs themselves to supplement the farm income until most finally succumbed to the lack of resources. That bleeding continued well into the current situation where we now find very few young men or women willing to try toughing it out in rural areas, with or without the prospects of marriage and family. The saddest result to this has been a women’s movement which promised the young women prosperity and happiness through those careers and lives in the urban jungle. In spite of the fact that most men in business were suffering and dying from stress related illness, the feminist swore that women were inherently stronger of character and would not fall victim to the same rigors as men had for decades. Well, as we all know that was just one of the deceptions of feminism. As more and more women accepted the false promise of greatness without a need for men to complete their life, we all started to lose the very fabric that our culture was originally woven from. Even though some young men want desperately to hang on to the remaining family property and heritage, real world issues like basic sustenance demand more of them. While their female counterparts feel less strongly regarding the ‘old family farm’ and are also being constantly bombarded with lofty dreams of independent success, they are fleeing in droves to the cities where they will be cast to the wolves of business, corporate deceit and an unforgiving, unglamorous normalcy. They will all soon discover first hand that there is no real life “alone” and that fulfillment for people comes from the process of sharing their lives with someone of substance. It is only when, for many of them, it is too late to start over that they will look in a mirror and ask themselves, “What the hell was I thinking?”
The short and wonderful vision for those of us looking to maintain a sense of true, traditional happiness may be to think of finding someone from another country for our own personal satisfaction, but the real goal should be to bring that significant other (if you find her elsewhere) back to this country and to reseed the ideals and moral base which mankind functioned on for thousands of years and which was the basis for founding this country to begin with. Strong Judeo-Christian values and an insatiable desire for freedom all centered on a time honored family structure was the cornerstone of the North American way of life. Everything that the feminist plan boasted was in direct conflict to that plan and if finding intelligent, family oriented women from other countries to try rebuilding what we had is the answer, then I am the first to say, “Let’s get it done.”
August 11, 2008 at 4:50 am
GL,
I like your blog, and I have a link to you here. I don’t think God meant for us to be alone; He said that it’s not good for the man to be alone.
That said, I have to agree with Taras here; getting involved with domestic women IS too dangerous to contemplate-too dangerous! Besides, when you get to be my age (46), your sex drive drops off. You don’t care so much about being alone; if anything, you welcome it…
MarkyMark
August 11, 2008 at 6:04 am
I definitely agree with Taras and MarkyMark, the risk is way too high to get involved with AW/WW, finding out you were wrong can be financially as well as legally devastating. A lot of men cannot even remarry once they’ve been through the western court system because they cannot take care of another wife or family financially due to the punitive financial burdens place on the man by Family courts that is if they ever decide to remarry. (You can google many cases of what second wives think about this and how it impacts the new family).
As for the sex drive, yes there is a lot of positives about being a slightly older man(44 in my case), once it revs down you have to freedom to think clearly and not be a slave to hormones. That freedom is hard to put into words but other things take priority in life instead of biology.
Good writeup Richard and spot on in terms of how rural life has been impacted by the changes in economics and feminism. The only point I would disagree with is the reseeding idea. Why would anyone in their right mind want to expose a perfectly fine woman to the sewer of modern western life and ideas? You can bet that the feminists and their pet media will try everything in their power to inform (ie infect/corrupt) that poor woman about her “rights” possibly actively counseling her to divorce the guy as soon as possible.
Unless your foreign wife had a supportive community of her own people to help maintain her cultural perspective it would be very hard for her to not be “contaminated” by the culture around her. There are many examples of perfect good women from other countries who through a period of time became corrupted by the false values and feminists ideas of the west. These ideas have been engineered in such a way as to be very enticing to women who don’t have a strong culture bulwark to lean against.
If you want to see how insidious feminist ideas really are here is an example of it’s contaminating effect.
http://www.earthtimes.org/articles/show/196636,malaysian-woman-sues-husband-over-lost-virginity.html
For me I would instead think about liquidating my assets in the West and making a new life elsewhere, hoping to change America back to the way it was from within I think is a nearly impossible task they way things currently stand. Better to make a fresh start elsewhere.
August 11, 2008 at 6:15 am
Richard, Just to add a little bit to my previous statement and using a reference you’ll understand,(Genesis 18) why would Lot want to remain in Sodom and Gemorrah? or expose anyone else to that environment?
August 11, 2008 at 6:15 am
oops I meant Genesis 18 without a ) next to it.
August 11, 2008 at 7:46 am
GRY,
Thanks for the comments and I’m familiar with the Malaysian story. My, how our ‘women’ are desecrating the planet with their poisonous thinking.
I completely agree with what you are saying about the risk of corruption by bringing a mentally healthy, family focused woman here. There is no success without risk and effort.
We all have to plow and plant our own fields, and ultimately I believe that the reseeding and rebirth of our traditional values will be seen in our lifetime. Granted we won’t likely ever see it as we remember or hope for but as all bad ideas run their course and nature reclaims all in its own time, this too shall end and I feel too strongly to quit just yet.
Many people I know traveling through the FSU and other European regions are telling me that I could live like a king there but my desire is to be a catalyst for change right here at home. Besides, there’s this bulldog mentality in me that says fight rather than let the feminazis win.
I also have too much to teach my daughter about our situation and I want her to see first hand that she is above the current anti-male way of thinking. She would be the only reason I would move away from NA and only if she was to begin falling victim to the brainwashing of feminism. She’s only 8 years old and she gets very annoyed when the media portrays men as idiots and mindless drones while women are always the problem solvers and the family’s hero.
Some of the contacts that I have are through American and Canadian immigration aid groups and they spend a lot of time and effort helping people find and stay plugged into people from their own homelands and who still believe in many if not all of their homeland ways. A particular church group in the Vancouver area places immigrants with schooling and/or jobs but also in housing together with others from the same country. Their traditional Christian values mixed with their desire to build a better life makes these people very appealing to those of us local folks wanting the same things. It also makes the process of getting here easier for the people we may meet from afar.
One thing that has been important to me as far as solid marriages go is the idea of not having a wife in the work force. Social expression, self realization or whatever other tag lines used by the feminists be damned. I have personally met hundreds and personally know dozens of financially successful couples throughout the Western Hemisphere and almost every single one of those women are stay at home wives and mothers and I can’t think of a one that would trade places with any ‘outside’ working woman alive. Every intelligent thinking woman I have ever met would prefer to sip a mint julep or iced tea on a hot Monday afternoon rather than be stuck at a desk in some stuffy office building working some dead end job for some unappreciative jack ass of a boss. I firmly believe that if you associate with the right people and you treat your wife like a queen she will have no desire to get screwed up and over by the work-a-day world. Unfortunately you must start with someone who wants to be treated like a queen, not one who thinks she’s the freakin’ king. As we know, that someone isn’t likely to be found here in NA.
In regards to the libido and how much or not so much gas is left in the tank, as far as I know, my sex drive is still pretty darn good at 55. Unfortunately I have been single for so long I don’t really know! If I had my way there would be more children in the house and that means women my age are out of the question. That is another reason for my researching other countries for a potential mate. There are so few countries that I’ve been to where age is a relevant issue; except good old NA and these self indulgent tramps who just can’t possibly see being with someone 15 or 20 years older . . . .
Just today, at the super market in BC, there was a German couple (I could tell from their conversation) in line for coffee. She was clearly in her late 20s or early 30s while he was a sure 55 or better and they were holding hands, kissing, joking and laughing. It warms my heart to see couples openly displaying their affection but you should have seen the glances and glares of the ‘twenty somethings’ hanging around. I wanted to thank the couple and slap the crap out of the judgmental bimbos.
I hope you find your one and only, wherever she is.
August 11, 2008 at 8:32 am
GRY,
Thank you for your reference. I’ll have to check though. I thought that was Genesis 19 where Lot is making the decision to flee or stay.
I really do believe that some of us are called to stay, be it for this reason or another. I also know that some are called to go and to build on other continents. Yet others are to travel and plant seeds in whatever fashion is fitting to them.
We have a serious task before us and reaching the underlying good is our target. If in that process of awareness and growth we end up personally enriched with a loving and supportive wife and family, then we have only begun to know the vision for our lives.
We are old enough to identify the enemy and in the arena of trying to find happiness, that enemy is our most important ally. In this battle, woman is the confidant and the killer, the lover and the executioner, the salvation and the sin. We may know what it is that we want but few of us know how to get it and if we do know how, we can’t always make it happen.
If the best potential wife is in the FSU, does that mean we all should or have to go there? I don’t think so. However there are many other desirable places to live and a good mate will be there with you no matter where that is. Are we strong enough of character to make our home and family safe from the onslaught of feminist propaganda and temptation? Do we have a choice?
In spite of the decades of sewage streaming through our cities and country sides, I see lots of people nearing a breaking point with this ultraliberal nonsense. My stepson is 17 and he is highly motivated to dump all of his knee jerk, something for nothing, welfare mentality buddies because they are constantly bringing him down emotionally. He also hates the dating scene now and he’s recently told me that a group of kids he knows are making contracts with each other about no disrespectful statements between the guys and the girls. The girls he is hanging around with want to be girls and to be treated like girls. It gives me hope, at least for some of them.
I appreciate your insights and share your concerns.
August 11, 2008 at 9:35 am
Richard,
Your points about the midwest are very insightful. The cause and effect of agricultural industrialization on the social fabric of that region was something I never heard about before but it makes perfect sense.
Ironic isn’t it?
But younger folks just can’t wait to get away from the farm and live in the big city.
But the older we get the more we realize that freedom and stable loving families are the best so there is a desire to “go back” to the farm.
I certainly admire your grit and determination with seeding the right values in your own home.
I for one believe that is a great and noble thing to do but in order to fully realize that you are going to need one helluva good woman by your side.
I love to use Ronald Reagan as a great example for this. He has some serious grit to take on the USSR the way he did but I’m sure there is now way he could have pulled it off unless he had his Nancy who was solid as a rock by his side.
I hope you find her soon my friend..
GL
August 11, 2008 at 9:44 am
BTW I found this link about John Edward’s mistress that just totally hit the nail on the head as far as describing what is so common in the US.
http://www.nydailynews.com/news/politics/2008/08/08/2008-08-08_john_edwards_former_babe_inspired_lusty_-3.html
August 12, 2008 at 12:44 am
I’m 42 and I certainly see that one’s sex drive slowing down as a blessing. With age also comes life experience and maturity, and that combined with a slower sex drive makes it much easier to preempt the troubles younger men often get into because of them thinking with their glands. We have to stay in control of our baser natures, because that is the only way to get western women to control theirs for all of our sakes. I’ve seen some couples where the husband is in his 40’s or 50’s and the wife is in her mid or late 20’s. Their happiness with each other amid the hate stares from the feminist harpies nearby is heartwarming and does give me a rise too. I for one couldn’t care less about women my own age. In my area, most have kids by two or three men by now, smoke and drink heavily and are quite frankly train wrecks. Younger women wouldn’t want anything to do with me because I’m gray haired and not ripped like some steroid inflated body builder, nor do I have a lot of money. My Slavic appearance also works against me here too, at least among white women. So I sit back and enjoy life as much as I can, and stay below the radar like a sea-skimming missile……
Taras
August 12, 2008 at 8:23 am
GL,
I watched that clip of John Edwards’ mistress and her sounding smug about the whole thing. I didn’t know about her personal page being taken down but it’s clear that it needed to be. Why would a guy even look at someone like her? Isn’t it simple to glance at the daily rags and see why the future in NA is so gloomy?
Thanks for the comment about ‘grit’. That’s what we used to call it back home when somebody was too damn stubborn or just bullheaded enough to say, “No more!” and really mean it. My belief that even the worst can be undone is a force that drives me many times. And then there’s that little girl who trusts me to make things better for her, no matter what happens.
I’m with you on Ron and Nancy, too. Throughout their lives they exemplified marriage as it was meant to be and as their lives neared an end the foundation remained dignity. What a classy couple. And yes indeed, Ron had ‘grit’. Popular or not he did what was right and then explained why it had to be done.
Thanks for keeping this forum open and going. It is reassuring to see so many people expressing their views and feelings about such an important situation in our world.
August 15, 2008 at 11:25 pm
http://www.census.gov/prod/2003pubs/p20-544.pdf
Ratio of men to women 2002. Young kids, yes, but by marrying age, more women then men.
Of course, there are areas where there are shortages of women, as the Texan said, but thus there are areas where there are more men.
But, if there were more women than men, hey, more foreign women are going to get some of the best husbands in the world.
I was just this morning talking to a woman here in rural Mexico. And I told her in my opinion, Mexican women make some of the best wives in the world, especially if you keep them in Mexico. And, North American men make some of the best husbands. American women are among the worst wives in the world.
You can tell the difference from 20 feet away. AW look sour.