Bad Habits


I just got done reading a pretty disparaging article about how big the Russian Mafia Online Dating Scam Industry is…

And it’s NOT a “Pretty Picture”…

Even if the entire scam process itself is launched with thousands of images of beautiful women floating around on the internet.

You’ve already heard the stories I’m sure but here’s what a major British Newspaper, the Daily Mail is reporting.

Thousands of people, including many lonely and gullible British men, have lost large amounts of money after entering into correspondence with women on websites, naively beguiled by their warm words, suggestive chat and the sexy pictures they attach to their emails.

When they were asked to send money, which the women claimed was needed for British visas or to buy tickets for travel to Britain, the men readily agreed.

They never saw the money or heard from the women again.

In a final humiliating twist, they found out, usually far too late, that many of the sensuous “women” with whom they had been corresponding were actually men – part of one of the many sinister Russian mafia rings making a fortune out of such scams


Now normally I try to keep things on a tame level when I feel like I need to hand out a healthy dose of criticism towards American Women.

But when I received a viewer comment yesterday about Western Women it just really clicked and the reality of it refused to lie still.

Now if you remember in our previous post “NEWS FLASH! Beautiful Russian Girls in the Mainstream Press” I took offense with Anne Applebaum’s contention that most Russian Women only became beautiful when they acquired enough money and free access to fashionable products to transform themselves from

“Unglamorous Assembly Line Workers”…

into the

“extraordinarily, unbelievably, stunningly, and gorgeous”…

…Russian women that she saw from the mid 90’s on.

One of our readers graciously wrote in the following comment about this state of affairs from his vantage point.

Women in the West are NEVER going to want to see these (Russian) women coming their way.

They will marginalize them any way they can. If it weren’t for the Sharapova’s a Western man might believe them, but you can’t deny the picture you posted (of her beauty) and noted the (lack of) clothing and make up.

Western women WANT to make this about materialism, it is the only value they appreciate.

They WANT to believe that clothing and make up can cover the distance between what they have become and the obvious stunning beauty that is available in the FSU.

I am around single women’s groups a lot, and they detonate if the subject of women from anywhere comes up.


Now when I read this it was easy to be reminded of the American Women back in my own life who had demonstrated these unfortunate characteristics all too well.

I was even thinking about sharing some personal examples of this when I realized that there was a much more simpler and vivid example I could use that everyone should instantly recognize and still drive home the point.

An example of a Woman that we all know who also possessed a toxic brew of VANITY and ENVY directed towards other women.

So does anyone know who this lady is?



One of the hardest things for most men to grasp is that the feminist cultural norms they were indoctrinated into are absolutely destructive towards their dream of having a happy marriage with a beautiful and traditional lady.

And the core factor which determines success or failure for them depends on which of the following paths they choose:

Bold & Active


Defensive & Passive

Now Imagine what would happen if you yourself acted in a DEFENSIVE or APOLOGETIC stance everyday.

It shouldn’t be too hard to see that this would lead to a whole host of problems that would make your life pretty miserable.

Now let’s take this one step further.

Imagine a life where everything you say as a Man is followed by some disclaimer or apology because you are constantly expecting to be attacked or labeled as one of the following:

  • Abuser
  • Chauvinist
  • Stupid
  • Rapist
  • Sexist
  • Violent
  • Lazy
  • Irresponsible

… and the list goes on and on.

Tragically Gentlemen this is the “Feminist Re-education Camp” culture that many of us were born into.


I have a friend who has been living and doing business in Moscow for the last 4 years who I talk with on a semi-regular basis.

Let’s call him Matt.

Matt is successful, smart, street wise and highly connected with different business leaders both in Russia and in the US.

Matt is the kind of Man with whom you’d easily expect to have a killer girlfriend by his side at all times given the nice little existence he’s made out for himself.

However in this particular example that ain’t the case.

And it’s not because Matt by any means is incapable of getting a lovely lady in the first place..

It’s simply because he absolutely REFUSES to date girls in Moscow.

And instead he wants me to help him find someone in Siberia..


I think you Guys maybe right.

Even if there are more available Women on the US East Coast I’m sure there are other obstacles to contend with in relation to finding someone you can be more attracted to.

I saw this Graph and decided that it was worth posting for you to ponder over as well.


Now I know that there is no data here separating Men from Women so I’ll just assume that the split is roughly equal.

But obviously I think we are on to something “BIG” If 30 percent of the US population has a Body Mass Index greater then 30 which by the way is considered to be in the Obese Category by the American National Institute of Health.

Keep in mind that this is probably only the tip of the proverbial iceberg since an Index between 25 to 29.9 is also considered overweight. And in case your wondering.. a normal weight range is classified between 18.5 to 24.9.

So aside from all of these numbers..

Are you starting to get the picture in terms of what seems to be a “growing” problem in the Good Ol’ US of A?

You will notice that Russia IS NOT listed on this graph.

Maybe it’s because there’s no figures available.

Or maybe it’s because the slim figures that I see walking around everyday is actually the norm.

In anycase I’ll let you Gentlemen be the judge..

So sound off on what you’ve seen especially if you’ve been to Russia and can make the comparison.

I recently had a chance to talk to a charming and statuesque young lady named Natasha who had spent last summer in the US under a 4 month Work and Travel Visa.

She went to Maryland and waitress-ed in a family restaurant which gave her a unique perspective on “the norms” of American eating and dining.

So to put it mildly..

She was completely shocked at the sheer volume of food that could be consumed by a single human being in one sitting.

She was even more shocked when she realized that this National Geographic moment of bi-pedal hunters devouring their “Grand Slam” prey did not limit itself to just the Male Species.

Now she had always heard the classic stereotypes about a large percentage of American Women who are “healthily fed” and run no risk of wasting away anytime soon.

But for any Russian Girl to hear about this is one thing..

To see it for themselves..

Is another thing all together..

Now in the interests of not wanting to throw Russian – American Relations back another 20 years or so…

Allow me to gracefully avoid the stunned impressions of a young Siberian Girl in America and detour around what Natasha described to me about the physical appearance of many of the Women she met..


I Gotta tell you word travels REAL quick in this town..

So if a Man comes over here and does something TOTALLY Stupid everyone is going to know about it VERY quickly… Especially Me..

Basically it starts with a friend of a friend of a friend who is a local Taxi Driver with an incredible story to tell.

A few weeks ago he was hired to be the personal driver for some relatively well off Man from America who had been corresponding with a local girl here for some time.

This Guy thinks he’s being a “Real Hero” for helping out some Beautiful but “poor and unfortunate” Girl anyway he can..

He hears one tragedy after another that has befallen this Woman..

“Her Dad died, her Grandmother died, her Dog died…” and on and on..

So now she and her poor brother have no one to help them to survive the ravages of this Winter..

…and if she could just get some assistance from a loving and generous Man she would be “his” forever…

So what does our “brilliant” Mr. Hero do?


Many years ago when I was back in California I was driving up to a seminar and had volunteered to pick up another lady on a car pool list who was also attending it.

Let’s call this Woman “Carol”.

Carol looked like she was in her early to mid 40’s. Typical nature-mama look with disheveled clothes, tangled hair and a face that had an equally confused expression.

Frail and depressed were the two words that came to mind as I saw her for the first time.

After our greetings and introductions we later on settled into a conversation about Men, Women and Relationships..

Carol was sad and upset as she talked in a surprisingly candid and neurotic tone when she said…

I don’t understand why Men don’t want me anymore..

When I was a teenager in the 70’s I was a hot little girl and every man wanted me and I could completely do as I pleased. I could get him to buy me drinks, take me out for expensive dates, and buy me gifts. And then I could get rid of him and another Man would quickly do the same. But now that doesn’t happen anymore..


My friend Anna in Berlin had an interesting observation that I wanted to pass along.

Hi there!
I am still checking your site everyday and now I understand why you were so impressed when you first came to Russia. In the beginning when I came to Germany I was always asked by my classmates if I had a party or a special event that I was going to because of the clothes that I wore. At first I didn’t understand and I thought.. “Why should I be going to be one?”

Now I understand. I am almost the only one who puts makeup on, wears clean clothes, and even combs my hair everyday!!!

These are all uncommon things here. But you know I don’t feel like they are different from me in a good way. They don’t understand why I get up in the morning a little bit earlier to tidy myself up! Strange…

Anyway, I can say now.. YOU WERE RIGHT! 🙂

Looks like there’s not much I can add on to that now can I?

Other then the fact that what she describes conjures up images in my mind that don’t look too good..

I think I’ll skip that future vacation to Germany for now and happily stay right where I’m at..

Unless of course they have more Beautiful Ladies like this… Cheers Anna 😉


Ok Let’s face it..

We American’s generally DON’T know how to dress ourselves to an acceptable standard..

And yes I’m talking about us Men as well..

(Because we’ve already said more then a few things about the obvious lack of fashion sense that many American Women are deprived of.)

I don’t know how we lost our ability as a culture to look good.. but I think it has much to do with our desire to remain a class-less oriented society throughout our history along with the counter-culture and anti-establishment movements which grew from the 60’s on.

But of course any of this can simply be used to interpret us as a “classless” society as well.

Regardless of how this situation came about here’s the bottom line..

Unless you want to be seen as an uneducated homeless person or even a strange circus act by the beautiful Ladies here…

DON’T Dress like a “Typical” American when you come out to Russia.


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